The older I get the more I realise that life is just full of compromises.
When you’re young and full of dreams and ideals you imagine that you’ll be able to do anything. Literally anything. But as you get older you realise in order to do some things well you just have to let go of other things.
I’ve encountered a lot of incidences lately where people I interact with want to have it all, a successful business, work life balance, a hand in every pie and active participation in activities elsewhere and beyond.
So far I don’t think it’s working terribly well.
We mere mortals are only capable of doing so much at a time. And each of us has only 24 hours a day in which to do them. If you want to give something your all, everything else has to give.
If your priorities are in raising your kids, do that (and don’t look back). If you want to be the best damn Architect in the world, give it your all. But don’t come crying when you realise all those other things that you missed out on. It’s what you wanted after all.
But to not know what you really want to do, to do anything and everything because you feel you can means trouble. You’re not truly giving your all to each and everyone. You can’t. Eventually compromises have to be made in order to serve one’s priorities.
Children know when your focus is not entirely on them. Problems arise when little mistakes slip through the cracks in ones attention. We only have one life to live… and one body to do it well with.
Make choices, no matter how tough. Some things are not as important as they seem once you’ve learnt to let them go. But please, learn to compromise in order to prioritize.